I really hate the trend lately where women think it's okay to act like a total butthole about their wedding. It doesn't make you look cool or chic-- but rather shows bad character. Nobody is amused.
To ensure that I would not be a stressed-out, miserable, angry mess of a bride, I came up with a very simple plan. What I wanted to accomplish (WHY I wanted a wedding), things I needed, and things I'd like to have.
Here is why I wanted a wedding:
- To celebrate the decision to spend my whole life with the one I love
- To share this celebration with those closest to us
- A venue
- A preacher
- A wedding dress that looked great on me
- A suit for hubby
- A sit-down meal as a reception
- A cake
- Small gifts for each guest
- A bouquet
- Pretty decor
I did not even ASK what the color scheme was, what the flowers looked like, or what the cake looked like. Had never seen that stuff until I arrived an hour before the ceremony-- and it was all beautiful. The cake was small, fitting for our party of 10, and elegant, with real flowers picked from the venue's property on it. This was also where my bouquet came from, and it was gorgeous.
I could go on and on... But mostly I will say that we had a fantastic time. Probably my favorite day EVER. The ceremony was brief, but meaningful-- we weren't worried about anything, just focused on one another. The casual lunch afterwards with my family and his was so special and so fun. There was so much love and happiness.It was a day I will remember forever with a big smile and a warm heart.
Television is glorifying really ugly behavior from brides. So impress upon your daughters, your grandchildren, your nieces the importance of good character. Teach them to be beautiful, happy, compassionate, graceful, and grateful brides.